I asked Jon to give me some points he wanted to highlight about himself and he said, “All people need to know is that I’m incredibly good-looking. Get that point across.” HAHAHA! Which he is, but he is definitely more than that. So, I am obligated to give my perspective of the glue that holds this family together.
As in the last three posts, the word I would use to describe Jon would be selfless. While he has amazing qualities overall to me that stands out the most. When we discovered Heath was Deaf, he made the decision that staying home to raise Heath and Presley would be the best for the family overall. Despite his desire to contribute financially to the family funds he sacrificed, his own wants and needs and put Heath’s first. It was at that moment I realized who I chose to live out my days with. People say that a person’s true character is revealed when (excuse my French) the shit hits the fan. I remember clearly that he said, “I will do whatever it takes to make sure he has a safe environment to grow in”. Leaving him with someone all day, every day, with someone who could not sign was not an option for either of us. Since my work was more stable, he sacrificed himself and allowed me to pursue my career. In my opinion something that is rare in the men that are in my life both professionally and personally.
My belief is that Heath is thriving and growing not only from the support of his Deaf family, but also his growth is directly related to the fact that his father can communicate with him. Studies have shown that less than 10% of hearing fathers can sign fluently with their Deaf children. Jon refused to be a part of that statistic. While it is still difficult for both of us to sign fluently as the English rolls off our tongues, we still have a meaningful relationship with Heath and that was very important to him.
Not only is he selfless, but he is incredibly witty, fun and engaging. He loves music, motorcycles and actively pursues any free time to veg since he’s with the kids A LOT! He’s a man of few words but when he does speak, it’s quite thought out and respectful. He’s the exact opposite of me, which is great! I can truly say that the three of us are truly blessed to have him as our husband and father.
And that is my perspective.